In thinking about all the things I am going to reference in this post, I could cry right now.
I haven’t posted here since December 2023, and here’s why: the last 15 months have been unbelievable, transformative, triumphant, sorrowful, disastrous, hopeful, and filled with a new peace.
Through a series of unbelievable, unpredictable events, I have realized a cycle that started a long time ago, to become the best version of myself I have ever been. I have a theory about why people self-sabotage, why I think they punish themselves for the pain they feel inside. For reasons only God could explain, I have stopped doing that. I am able to do things with clarity and consistency that I have not done since I was 12 or 13 years old. I can honestly say this is the best I have felt in 20 years. My mind and my process have not been this consistent in two decades. I wish I could say I planned it this way, but…..nope! Not at all. Some people will tell you they see it but few would look closely enough. Believe me, it happened.
I suspect I will take a new step tomorrow. After that, I will eventually announce something else. No timetable, but there are some interesting irons in the fire. The drawing board has a sketch or two. Sometimes, when one thing starts moving, it allows you to see how the other things could move to augment the thing. A hands off chain reaction. Again, not my plan.
How do I feel about all of this? That’s what I came here to tell you.
Couple things:
1. I have to, have to, have to, have to say goodbye to Andrew Klein one more time. We became great friends in September 2020, almost immediately. He passed away in August 2024. I spent three of the last four years of his life with him almost every day. I don’t feel a need to revisit what happened. I just miss him. He had so much to give, so much energy and flavor and understanding. He was a very bright light, even if the room was already bright. His presence was so large, you could feel it from two towns over. Our bond was true. I gave, because I am a giver, and he exuded. I can feel his warmth, and I hear his gigantic laugh now. What an esoteric nut, but he was my esoteric nut. Much as I try to forget, he gave me something only he could give. I am grateful.
2. On the home page, you’ll see a few tributes to Karim Rome. We’ll keep doing that. He shined in a unique way also. Heart of gold, mind from another planet. Surely someone that good, that creative, that loving couldn’t be human. He was too good for this world. Your energy is what we all need.
3. happiness is truth unburdened. we face many burdens that come with truth. when we accept that those burdens were not our failure or our faulty design, then we can live in the truth with love and experience joy
4. Every lesson is part of the great drum circle in the sky. I can’t hear all the parts, but I can pick up a note or two here and there. This is an incomprehensible story; we are actors who know our lines, but our subconscious reads them to us.
5. The past can be kept and cherished, but you can’t let it weigh you down. It can’t be your present or your future. You can take some chapters with you, but it’s generally not a good idea to make it your life again. There is no nobility in suffering for the sake of better, nor resistance for the sake of aspiration. Pain doesn’t make you stronger, it makes you weakened enough to recover until you can find your strength again. No reason to welcome it if you know it will probably find you at some point. It won’t help you, it will only wear you down.
6. I give (myself) grace, I get grace (from others)
I give (myself) patience, I get patience (from others)
We can’t, don’t and won’t understand everything. That’s why we should give grace. I know that I tried to understand what was in your heart in a given moment. It’s possible I didn’t understand the moment, and that’s okay. The grace I give now is available to the person you are now and the person you become who will want it. Because it allows you to be whoever you are now and in the future, it is a gift that keeps on trying to be given until it is gifted. We give it to ourselves and others at the same time; that is why it heals.
7. Practice life as much as you practice music. No one ever said it to me that way (until recently!), but I wish they did. For us, being deficient in one hurts the other. Balance them! You need both!
8. 12 years ago, I reached my highest career peak. Since then, I have been trying to figure out everything else. I had no idea what I needed at that point. Nothing about these years has been empty. If I were still the same person, I would feel empty and unwanted; instead, I feel secure and balanced. There is no mistake to review, no road untraveled, no thought or moment I missed.
There was a reason for everything that happened and everything I did because - let me be very clear here - BECAUSE I did not go against what I believed to be the growth and purpose I sought. None of this was random, even when I suffered. Even when I failed, I tried to see it for what it could be. I did not try anything or everything in the hopes of finding something, I tried something in the hopes of finding balance. In other words, I feel the reasons for what has happened because I feel like I was always following the path, so it was impossible for me to be lost. If you don’t feel like you’re following a path, it would be difficult for you to figure out where and what to trace. What would the connections be if you can’t make them? Your subconscious would have to leave bread crumbs and trace it, but it can’t if it was lost, too. It can only be traced based on where you were, and it could be even more clear if you had a direction in the moment. You get what I’m saying?
9. For almost my entire life, I have sought some understanding about why I feel removed from almost everyone I meet. It is so much deeper than topics or presentation. I feel fundamentally removed, like I’m not even the same species. I have felt this since I was 4 or 5 years old, and it hasn’t stopped. Now, I know why I feel that way, how it works internally, what it does to me and others, but that’s not enough to close the case. As long as I feel like I can keep expanding, keep pushing, keep balancing and absorbing, I will keep finding new purposes. What will I do with all of it? Can I keep doing this for the rest of my life? What will my life become if I keep going? I don’t know. All I know for sure is I can keep doing this. I’m not slowing down at all. I can’t, nor would I want if it were up to me. (it isn’t)
I could never have predicted the last 15 months. I cannot predict the next 15 months. Indeed, every day I brace for the next disaster, the next derailment. The fear is just as palpable as the balance. Every day, I wake up and I am very, very grateful to have freedom, space to grow and dream, and everything I’ve built to this point. I feel blessed and terrified at the same time: constantly afraid of being torn down or shook to my core, and elated to be living a life I was never quite sure would be mine. And that…is balance. That is yin and yang. There are stories that explain God’s love, but I have not been able to understand them in an analytical way. I am stunned, silent, and in awe of the gaps in understanding that only God could explain. I am also very much alive, for some reason I still can’t explain. Explosively alive.